This is our final blog post in our parenting series of love languages of children.

I hope that these post will help you connect with your child.  

Understanding your child's love language can revolutionize your parenting and really make your child feel loved.  Filling your child’s love tank allows you to teach and discipline them in a healthy manner.  

How can you find out what your child's love language is? 

• Go HERE and have your child take the 5 minute quiz

If quality time is your child’s primary love language, you can be sure of this: Without plenty of quality time and attention, your child will feel as if you do not really love them and may even act out in an attempt to get attention from their mom or dad.  To them negative attention is better than no attention at all. 

How do you make a child who's love language is quality time feel truly loved?  You start by giving them your undivided attention.  ...

This week we are talking about the language of physical touch.

And I know every guy is like, "This is my top love language."  (wink wink)

But it is talking about non-sexual physical touch. 

This is towards the bottom of my love languages, so I have to be intentional to love with hugs, back rubs, a touch on the shoulder, etc.  Some of you are even uncomfortable even reading about physical touch.

In a world where we can have millions of friends on Facebook but never be in close proximity to people, it is even more important to be intentional with healthy physical touch.  

If you have a child whose love language is physical touch, hugs, kisses and cuddles are the most common way of speaking this love language, but there are other ways, too.  For example, a dad tosses his son in the air or spins his six year old daughter round and round, and she laughs wildly or a mom that reads a story with her four year old on her lap. 

When a child’s...

Last week I had the honor of preaching during The Cross Series.   

Matt asked me to speak about Mary.  I loved the research and what Mary taught me. I shared what I learned in my sermon.  I believe one of the biggest things we can learn from Mary is humility.   

James 4:6 says, "But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble."

I don't want God to oppose me, so I want to live with humility. 

If you are not living with humility, then likely have pride in your heart.  I listed 10 (there are many more) things to help you know the difference between pride and humility.  

You can watch the sermon here. 

Pride vs Humility: 

A prideful person complains against or passes judgment on God.  You blame God for everything bad in your life.  Why don’t we blame Satan? 

A humble person acknowledges who God is and trusts Him. He can even praise God...

A pack sour gummy worms may seem like a small gift, however to a child with the primary emotional touch of gifts this feels like winning the lottery!  An impromptu gift can feed a hungry heart with love.  It says to your child “when we were apart you were on my mind in a special way.”  Not only is the gift itself important, but customizing the gift to that specific child is vital.  Don’t worry, the gifts don’t have to be extravagant, it’s the thought behind the gift that resonates the most with your child.

Loving with gifts is

• Impromptu
• Meaningful
  
• Specific to your child’s personality

Ways to show your child love through gifts:

• Going to the dollar tree and buying a simple “I’m thinking of you” gift
• Creating a photo album for your child of their friends/family
• Gifting the supplies to create something together (Legos, paint, cooking supplies, etc.)
• Buying a shirt that represents a tv show, movie, video...

 1 John 3:18 (NLT) states “Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions.”  John’s saying that the best way to communicate love is through the unity of TRUTH and ACTION.

One way to do this is to understand your child’s primary emotional touch point (also known as a love language).  An emotional touch point a way to effectively communicate love to one another.  The incredible notion is that when we understand how to love with biblical love, we are able to “walk as Jesus” or in other words “walk as LOVE.”

This week we want to look at how we can love our children with…

Words that Affirm

Verbal exchanges are fundamental to our everyday life, but how many of those words are intentionally given?

To a child with affirming words as their love language, these verbal exchanges are critical to their understanding of biblical love.  Biblical words of...

It’s a tale as old as time and true as it can be….that understanding your child can be a parental rollercoaster. We all love our children, obviously, but do you know what it means to make a true love connection with your son or daughter? Today we are going to delve into the words of apostle John so we can truly understand how to strengthen the love connection with our children.

Flipping to the back of the Bible, 1 John 3:18 (NLT) states “Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions.” John’s saying that the best way to communicate love is through the unity of TRUTH and ACTION. One way to do this is to understand your child’s primary emotional touch point (also known as a love language).

An emotional touch point a way to effectively communicate love to one another. The incredible notion is that when we understand how to love with biblical love, we are able to “walk as Jesus” or...

For 3 years I have been working with the Louisburg College Women's Basketball team.  I have built relationships with them, ridden on the bus to games with them, talked with them, prayed with them and they have become a part of my life.

On February 14, 2019, Valentines Day, one of the players Nadia Davidson was tragically killed in a car accident. 

She knew Jesus and we know one day we will see her again, so we grieve with hope.

Last night was the teams last game of the season and it was sophomore night, so we took some time to honor Nadia.  I was so honored that Coach Shay Hayes asked me to speak briefly about Nadia, and I wanted to share that with you.   Her life was not in vain.  Jesus has been lifted up and glorified even in her death.

Tribute to Nadia Davidson

Tonight we want to take some time to remember Nadia Davidson, # 32, a first-year Hurricane and sophomore at Louisburg College, majoring in Computer Science.

Nadia was...

The other day I was at a Q&A session and somebody asked,  how can I get my teenager to read their Bible? 

My response was, ”You can't!”

By the time your kids are teenagers there are some things you just can't make them do.  And if you try it will probably just provoke anger and not a love for God. Ephesians 6:4 tells us "Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger by the way you treat them. Rather, bring them up with the discipline and instruction that comes from the Lord."

So what do you do if you have teenage kids and you want them to have a heart for God?

First, I would say to make sure they are in church.  It is important to have Christian leaders around them that they love and respect and want to follow.  They need people in their lives that will teach them how to read the scripture and to live a life for God.  Get them involved in a student connect group.  Get them serving on...

This week in All-Staff Prayer my communications director, Sheena, brought the prayer focus.  It was so good and encouraging so I wanted to share it with you:  

“I have declared the word “Cultivate” my word for 2019. I want to cultivate an intentional life that is about serving the Lord for his purposes and growing what matters with him. 

In Matthew 13: 3-8 (NIV) Jesus told a parable about 4 different types of soil: 

“A farmer went out to sow his seed. As he was scattering the seed, some fell along the path, and the birds came and ate it up. Some fell on rocky places, where it did not have much soil. It sprang up quickly, because the soil was shallow. But when the sun came up, the plants were scorched, and they withered because they had no root. Other seed fell among thorns, which grew up and choked the plants. Still other seed fell on good soil, where it produced a crop—a hundred, sixty or...

I have been getting a lot of questions about coaching so I put together this blog to explain what it is.

"What exactly is a coach?"  is one of the most common questions I get. 

A coach is someone who wants to help others become who they are meant to be. A coach is someone who helps you to see the possibility of what your life holds and inspires you to take the next steps to help make it happen to get stuff done. 

Coaching helps you become emotionally whole as you address your hardships, fears and the limiting beliefs that stand in the way of you taking your next step.

 Coaching can also help you to: 

• Discover what matters most 

• Discover your God-given purpose 

• Identify the hurdles and limiting beliefs that are holding you back

• Create goals and action plans and help you to actually accomplish them

How do you know if Coaching is a good option for you?

Coaching is a great option for you if you are looking to improve in...