For some of us, we have the expectation of a Merry Christmas, but somehow it seems to elude us. Why is that?
Every person we gather with over the holidays has an expectation of what they want to happen too, and we don’t get to control what anybody else thinks, wants, or feels. So could it be that the “merry” eludes us because we can’t or shouldn’t try to control people?
How can we go through Christmas without expectations and be full of JOY?
Here are two ways:
1. NO Judgment!
Sometimes when you haven’t seen family in a long time, they want to tell you what has been going on, and as they are sharing, you may start judging what they did, said, or how they handled a situation. Maybe somebody judges you, and next thing you know, something sarcastic comes out of your mouth or their mouth, and the awkward atmosphere begins.
Ugh! You are triggered, frustrated, and you have allowed your joy to be stolen from you.
BUT, it doesn’t have to be this way.
What if you just observed what people said or did and didn’t judge them. That would make for a great atmosphere. Observation will help you to have compassion for people. It will cause you to take an interest in what they are going through and ask better questions.
So this Christmas, NO JUDGEMENT, just OBSERVATION.
2. NO Frustration!
So many things can frustrate us, especially when we have expectations. Have you ever said statements like this:
Why can’t they just get here on time?
Why did they buy that for a gift?
Why don’t they offer to help?
They need to get control of their kids.
The list goes on...
What if this Christmas you had APPRECIATION instead of frustration?
Instead of being frustrated or frustrating everybody else or there being no joy or fun, what if you just showed gratitude and appreciation?
Your words would sound more like:
I am so thankful you are here. Come on in and get your family some food!
I appreciate you buying gifts for the family. I know they really appreciate that.
Do you mind helping me clean off the table? I really appreciate your help.
Kids are a blessing from the Lord. I am so thankful for them!
We cannot control people, and if we try, we are the ones who need help.
So this Christmas, and every day, live with observation and appreciation.
Let’s not live to be judgemental and frustrated. Let’s live a life full of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control.
If you do this, you will have the Best Christmas Ever!