“Some people spend their entire lives waiting for the time to be right to make an improvement.” James Clear, Atomic Habits
I was a cross country runner in high school and college, and we ran every day. After college, I lost my accountability group, so I would run more when I felt like it. As I started putting on weight, I would join a gym or buy a piece of equipment and use it when I felt like it.
My whole life, I struggled with eczema. I finally found a doctor who told me I needed to heal my gut and make dietary changes, and my eczema would go away. And when I eat healthy, I have no gut issues and no eczema.
After Matt and I found ourselves deep in debt, we incorporated the envelope system into our finances and got debt-free and have stayed debt-free.
Does any of this sound familiar to you?
The things I want to do I don’t do and the things I don’t want to do I do. (Romans 7:15)
This is our human nature - right?
I want to work out, but I don’t.
I want to eat healthy, but I don’t.
I want to have a quiet time, pray and meditate, but I don’t.
I want to have a weekly date night, but I don’t.
I want to be debt-free, but I’m not.
This was me. I felt like everything was an “I want to, but I don’t it,” If I did do it, it was sporadic.
But then I started adding accountability and systems to my days, weeks, and years, which turned into habits, and I could start saying the things I want to do, I am doing!!
I have a group that I work out with every M-W-F at 6am.
And I’ve been able to work out consistently since 2020.
I wanted to pray more consistently, so I am a part of a Saturday Morning prayer group. I know that I will be in an hour of prayer weekly, which has caused me to pray more consistently and has changed my life.
Matt and I put our date nights on the calendar, so we know they will happen. We intentionally get them on the calendar, so we don’t wait till the last minute.
Years ago, we did whatever it took to get out of debt, and then we went through a group called FPU to put principles and systems in place and develop habits that have kept us debt-free.
I have learned to show myself some grace when I don’t do what I want to do, but I’ve also learned to develop systems that create habits. It has been good for me to celebrate what I have done instead of being frustrated with myself.
Mel Robbins wrote a book called The High 5 Habit, and it discusses the idea that we need to start hi-fiving ourselves instead of constantly condemning or being frustrated with ourselves.
It also shares strategies and habits to help you create ways to celebrate yourself and the things you are doing.
Another great book called Atomic Habits shows you how to develop systems that help you create habits to do more things you want to do without a failed new year’s resolution.
One of the reasons I started doing different challenges throughout the year is because I know accountability makes a huge difference.
When I have to check in with friends or a Facebook group where I can say - “done” and interact with other people, that is all I need.
So if you are interested in knowing about the challenges that I do throughout the year, make sure you are subscribed to Marthafry.com. Then, join one of the challenges, and let’s hi-five each other!
What are those things you want to do?
What areas do you need accountability?
What are you going to do about it?
Whatever it is you want to do, Start Now!! Then, in 6 months, you will be glad you did.
Put in place whatever kind of accountability you need to be successful.
I thank you for Your grace in my life. You know me better than I know myself, and You still love me. I confess the things I want to do I don’t and the things I don’t want to do I do. I need you to help me overcome myself. I speak to my mind, will, and emotions and say you need to sit down, and Holy Spirit, I need you to rise up and fill me. I want all of Your fruit in my life: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness, and self-control. You are not a God of chaos, so I ask for revelation and guidance on what I need to do to live a victorious life in You.
I love You and pray this in Jesus' Name!