What do you do when things don't go like you expect?
When a project doesn't turn out how you thought?
When a relationship ends?
When you are let go from a job?
What do you do?
Unfortunately, so many people make it personal and they begin to speak negativity over themselves, not the situation. We can start to feel like we are not good enough instead of saying that things about the project or relationship were not good.
Or we start to say that WE are less than instead of saying the project, job, or situation was not a good fit.
We start to believe that we are a failure instead of saying that the project or relationship failed.
If something doesn't turn out like we thought we can even start to feel shame or embarrassment, but that's because we have made it personal, we have made it a part of who we are.
It's not who you are, and so you have to start declaring who you truly are.
You are a child of God, You are chosen, You are the head and not the tail, You are above and not beneath, God's Hand of blessing is on you, His favor surrounds you like a shield.............
You may not have expected things to turn out like they did but all things can be used together for your good. Failure doesn't have to be an enemy, failure can be our friend.
We actually learn more when things don't go our way than when they do.
So instead of getting down in the pit ask yourself, what can I learn from this? What would I do differently next time? Is there something in me that I need to work on? Do I need to inspect what I expect?
Here are 3 things you can do when things don't turn out as you expected:
1. Fail Forward. As said by John Maxwell, grow from it. Go back and evaluate the situation or relationship and say what do I need to change to not make the same mistake again. Failure is your friend so let it make you better, not bitter.
2. Learn to laugh at life. We can get caught up in what will people think. The truth is, people, don't think about us as much as we think they do. And if they do say something it won't last for long and then they will be on to the next thing.
3. What does it matter? What will it matter in 5 years? What will it matter in 1 year? What will it matter in a week? Make sure you keep things in perspective.
I often say, "In light of eternity what does it matter?"
"If this is the worst thing that happens in your life you will have a great life."
Keep the unexpected things in life in perspective.
So let me make this personal to me.
My book was supposed to come out on Amazon this week. And because of some formatting issues and technical things, it is not. I could have made it personal and let it get me discouraged and down, but it's not personal, so I am moving forward. I am learning from it, declaring who I am, and using my mind to come up with a new plan and move forward.
Stay tuned and I will keep you updated with the new plan. :)
This to shall pass.
Love you guys,
PS: What are some things you do to move forward when things don't go like you expected?