When You Try Not to Talk

Oct 18, 2019

Have you ever read Psalm 39?  I know I have read it before, but for some reason this time when I read it, it hit home. 

I'll put the verses here so you can see what I'm talking about:

Psalm 39 (NLT)  

I said to myself, “I will watch what I do and not sin in what I say.
I will hold my tongue when the ungodly are around me.”
But as I stood there in silence— not even speaking of good things— the turmoil within me grew worse. The more I thought about it,  the hotter I got,  igniting a fire of words:

Here it is again in the TPT:

Here’s my life motto, the truth I live by:
I will guard my ways for all my days.
I will speak only what is right, guarding what I speak.
Like a watchman guards against an attack of the enemy,
I’ll guard and muzzle my mouth
when the wicked are around me.
I will remain silent and will not grumble
or speak out of my disappointment.
But the longer I’m silent the more my pain grows worse!
3–4 My heart burned with a fire within me,
and my thoughts eventually boiled over
until they finally came rolling out of my mouth.

I love this - I am not the only one.  

Did you see the FB post I did this week based on this?   If not, you have to check it out.   (I say it's from Psalm 93 but it's really Psalm 39)  LOL!  You Just have to!  King David and I have some attitudes in common.  :)   Check it out here

Sometimes it can just be easier to blame others for our mistakes, shortcomings or issues but even the Bible says.."So then, each of us will give an account of himself to God" Romans 14:12

But when we begin to accept responsibility for our part (whether it's 100% or 1%) we can really begin to see God move in our lives! 

For example, I used to blame our marriage problems on the fact that Matt and I didn't have pre-marriage counseling. (When you blame, it doesn't always make sense.)  We actually had one session but then he took a position at another church so we never finished.  I would BLAME or hold Matt responsible for our problems because he didn't make sure we had pre-marriage counseling.  

When I take responsibility, I have to say that I could have scheduled our pre-marriage counseling.  I could have said that I'm not getting married until we have pre-marriage counseling. I am responsible.  I am responsible for where I am in life and if I don't like where I am, I am responsible to make a healthy change and do the work!

Here are a few tips to help get you started on the journey of #iamresponsible

  • Take responsibility for how you react to what others do - you can't control what others do, but you can control what you do and say!
  • Be accountable to someone - a friend, co-worker, family member, life-coach.. someone who will ask you tough questions and help you face the consequences of your decisions.   
  • Remember that every decision has a consequence (good or bad) - We reap what we sow
  • Remember that we are ultimately accountable to God - Our responsible choices will be rewarded

I am on the journey with you! We can do this!!

 

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